Friday, November 09, 2007

Catch up #4

Robert loves Christmas. I think he spends half the year thinking about it. He's been thinking about decorating this house since before we moved in. I panicked a bit last month, asking him, "Where are we going to put the Christmas tree?" I couldn't see any possibilities, other than smack in the middle of my big bathroom floor (or the tub). But he'd already had that planned out too, and fortunately, the tree will be out in the great room for all of us to enjoy.

He's started working on a wreath for the outside second story window too. He's worked on it bit by bit, and I'm so oblivious that I didn't even know about it until it was almost done. It's 8 feet tall and a bit hard to miss.


It's currently in our basement. The only thing he didn't plan ahead for was getting it out of the 7 foot high door . . .

Thursday, November 08, 2007

Catch up #3


I am so glad that DeEtta mentioned Operation Christmas Child on her blog! Last year, I think the dates flew by and we missed the deadline to pack shoeboxes.

Trevor and I went shopping on Tuesday. We were pleasantly surprised by what our local dollar store had to offer, and we finished up our shopping at WalMart. We packed and prayed over the boxes, and we'll drop them off next week.


A program of the Christian charity Samaritan's Purse, Operation Christmas Child expects this year to deliver 8 million donated shoeboxes to needy children around the world. Samaritan's Purse is among Charity Navigator's highest rated charities.

It's so easy to get caught up in our own lives, and I am grateful that my kids have the opportunity to participate in this.

Catch up #2

Little things are big in a small town.

On Tuesday, the kids were happily doing their schoolwork when the power went out. Normally, this would be somewhat exciting. It was the middle of the day, we didn't need light. But we're not living a "normal" life anymore. We have a well, and the pump is run by electricity. When the power goes out, we have no water. It makes for a different kind of excitement (eyes rolling).

By some fluke, Robert had just hooked up our only landline phone that doesn't use electricity–in the laundry room. I was almost happy to hear that a power pole had caught fire in the next town over–it meant that the widespread outage was a priority.

Meanwhile, Robert and I went to go vote. The machines were still up, using a backup generator. (And yes, they have electronic machines here, we're not that rural.) I didn't care so much about the voting, but I had been wanting to check out the local elementary school.

As we drove down our street, a small number of neighbors were gathering to discuss the lack of power. No one else knew what was going on, so we got to share what we'd heard from the power company. (Yay, maybe we can win some friends!) Hmm. On second thought, they did all disburse once we brought the news. I hope it wasn't something we said.

Colorado has a buffer law for voters. That doesn't exist here, and as we walked into the school, we had to wade through a throng of people begging us to vote for their candidate. It was kind of creepy. A little wizened woman approached me, peering up into my face, smiling and croaking, "You will vote for _____________, won't you, dear?" I turned and fled into the building.

As we walked in the hall toward the gym, we passed an elderly man who had just finished voting. He stopped and warmly greeted us, shaking our hands. We've never seen him before. Did he think he knew us? Was he just friendly? Was he crazy? (I'm thinking yes, yes, and yes.)

Maybe I need to rethink this "winning friends" strategy.

* * *

At the same time our power went back on at home, the plumber showed up. We've been experiencing a horrible sewer smell periodically, and it was bad enough over the weekend that I checked on the kids Sunday morning to make sure they hadn't died overnight of methane poisoning. (Because it about killed me.)

Robert had talked to the original plumber on the house. He'd made plans to come by, and then remembered something that had broken off during construction but that they'd forgotten to repair! It took about two minutes, and the problem is fixed. Hallelujah!!!

Now we can breathe easy at night. If I could only stop my nightmares about alienating the whole town . . .


Catch up #1

Ever since Holly was little, she's asked for a "candy day," a day where she could eat nothing but candy, and as much as she wanted. Back then, it was easy to put her off. "How about when you're thirteen?!" I'd said. The problem with that, of course, is that it was like a promise--one that she's never forgotten. She's looked forward to "Candy Day" for years.

In a brilliant strategic move, Holly suggested that her Candy Day be the Saturday after Halloween. After all, Trevor would have all of his Halloween candy, and she wasn't trick-or-treating. Realizing that I was stuck, and anxious to get it over with, I agreed.

The deal pretty much was that she had less than $20 to spend at the grocery store on whatever junk food her heart desired. She could eat whatever she wanted, whenever she wanted.


Popcorn. Ice cream. Candy. Chips. I'm sure there was more, but I've forgotten, and she's not talking!

I think she enjoyed herself. I tried to ignore most of what she ate all day, but it was hard to forget seeing her face light up each time she remembered that she could have as MUCH as she wanted.

For as long as she's waited for Candy Day, I've been kind of hoping that she'd end up with a horrible stomach ache, deciding then and there to never eat candy again, realizing that her mom IS right, that she should listen to me always.

Do I need to say that didn't happen?

I think she's banking on a Candy Day again next year.

Wednesday, November 07, 2007

This morning

I took my camera with me this morning to get the paper at the end of the driveway.


I never tire of looking at this.


The sun was just coming up.



I don't think I've ever lived through a more beautiful fall.

:)

Monday, November 05, 2007

Weekly menu

Dinner:

BLTs, cottage cheese, chips

chicken souvlaki, couscous, pita bread, hummus

shredded beef tacos, guacamole

sloppy joes, ???

sausage, sauerkraut, mashed potatoes, yellow squash

giant burritos

manicotti, ???


Lunch (with or for):
smoothies
grilled PB&J

On the back burner:
grilled flank steak
fondue
Indian butter chicken, rice, canned pineapple
"seafood night" -- not sure what this is, but Robert promised Trevor

Sunday, November 04, 2007

Sunday

In our (continuing) quest to find a riding instructor for Holly, we stumbled upon the local 4H Horse and Pony Club. We were invited to attend the monthly meeting today. It was a beautiful day (have I mentioned this?) and it was a gorgeous drive (and I have mentioned this?)

The meeting was good, we liked what we saw, and Holly's considering joining the group. When possible, the club has some sort of educational demonstration follow the meeting. Today, the hands on activity was "sheath cleaning."

Let me be as clear--or as vague--as I'm going to get: imagine what "sheath cleaning" possibly would mean, and you would be correct. And it's not done on female horses. (We almost skipped the meeting.)

Here's sweet Apache. He had no idea what he was in for. Yet.


Don't worry. There aren't any more pictures.

The funny thing (to me anyway) is that Holly's seen this done before. Lucky girl.



We headed straight home afterwards, thinking we could make it before sunset. Just like everything else, this was a 40 minute drive. I was soooo close to home, and then I saw this in my rearview mirror:


While the speed limit is typically unmarked and I drive 50mph, there are occasional 35mph spots. Funny how I miss those signs. Sort of funny.

But, lucky for me, I didn't get pulled over for speeding. I realized two weeks ago that my Colorado license plates had expired 50 days before. I got the new plates, but I still don't have my inspection or county stickers. And lucky for me, the policeman that pulled me over loves Colorado and has been there to ski a few times. And lucky for me, he didn't check my new VA license for warrants. (Well, he wouldn't have found anything, but still . . . ) And lucky for me, he decided to give me a warning. That's really lucky for me, because the fine for not having the stickers is about $100.

Guess I'll be getting the rest of the stickers tomorrow. Lucky me!

Friday, November 02, 2007

Friday

I continued to be awed by the weather. It's been cooler, but clear blue skies, no drastic changes between hot and cold, so comfortable. Colorado weather is tumultuous; this is calm and steady.

We noticed dozens of ladybugs yesterday. I didn't check into it too much, but I think they are migrating.

We have a flurry of new birds at the feeders.


* * *

I've always thought one of the toughest things about moving is finding new doctors. I had a dr. appt. today. I found this practice on the internet, googling a few key phrases, randomly choosing whatever dr. could see me first. Especially considering Roanoke is a pretty small metro area, I was pleasantly surprised. The size of the practice rivaled anything I'd seen in Colorado Springs (which is 3-4 times larger), and the building was nice, newer, roomy. The staff was great, the dr. just fine, and I was in and out within a very reasonable amount of time. One stressor out of the way.

I also picked up a part for my car--the door roller had broken, and I've not been able to drive it all week. We even parked it on a hill to make sure the door wouldn't fall off. (Eyes rolling.) See, I'm fittin' in just fine heah.

I headed home.
  • Trip drive time: 2 hours; 70 miles.
I had plans with Holly to check out the nearest Kohl's. "Near" is relative. Of course, Kohl's is in North Carolina. We chose one in Lynchburg, which is just ten minutes closer. I'd not been out this way at all yet, and it was a nice drive. Looooong but nice. It was much flatter than our end of our county, and it was a strange feeling to see the mountains in the distance once again! We shopped for two hours, not finding as much as we'd have liked, but on the positive side, we didn't spend too much money either.

We left just in time, as I wanted to get home before it was too dark.


Of course, we found time to stop at Dairy Queen, and we picked up Dominos to take home for dinner.
  • Trip drive time: 3 hours, 130 miles
Total drive time: 5 hours, 200 miles. Ugh. That's not a very good average, 40 mph. But it was a pleasant day, I feel like I accomplished a lot, I enjoyed spending uninterrupted time with Holly, and I'm ready to stay home tomorrow. :)

Wednesday, October 31, 2007

Halloweeeeeen!

When Trevor decided a few weeks back to be the Ben10 character Four Arms, he and Robert brainstormed about how to pull together a costume.


Robert's worked on it for the past few nights, and here's the terrific final result!


We went up to the mall, where there were a couple of hundred kids trick or treating. That's another reason why I like it here. It's big enough to have a good showing at events like this, but small enough to have easy parking and not be overwhelmed by huge crowds.

We stopped for dinner in the mall too.



And just because I don't get many pics of Holly anymore, I'm posting another one!


It was a nice night, an easy night, and Trevor rated it a "medium" Halloween. But, hey, he got free candy and had an awesome costume. What more do you need?!

As you would imagine, he had an, um, interesting time trying to wash off that makeup. His face definitely has a red tone to it. But that's part of the fun too, especially if you're a nine year old boy!

Mom's latest bright idea!

I don't know if it's just me, or if there are giant odds stacked against regular people attempting any sort of scientific experiments.

I bought Glo-Germ. I'd heard about it on my hs list. Chris didn't have ANY troubles with this. This should have been my first clue. Chris is a pharmacist. I can barely choke down an Advil.

With all this MRSA talk, I thought I could impress my kids with the need to really wash their hands. It's a cute kit, and it ought to be. I paid $10, plus $6 for shipping. It came with instructions, fake germs, and a nifty little blacklight penlight.



Okay, kids, get ready to be grossed out! I poured a few drops of germ lotion on their hands and rubbed it in well. Really well. You want to be sure you get lots of germs in between your fingers, stuck in your fingernails, etc. I'm not sure how real germs really get that far in there, but I was following those directions.

Now wash your hands like you normally do. This won't take longer than five seconds!


Now off to the windowless bathroom, so we can see all those disgusting germs that you missed! (The whole time, I'm thinking, "Haha, you'll never wash your hands in the same way again!! ") We all crowd into the bathroom, and I'm relishing my moment of glory, the moment when all of my mom admonishments to "wash your hands!" are appreciated, and my kids can truly see me for the hero I am!

I pull out the penlight and SHINE!!!

Nothing on the palms. Nothing on the backs of the hands. Nothing between the fingers. I have a little blob of fake germs left in one fingernail. Trevor has a few specks around a couple of cuticles. Holly has a blob on one finger.

My moment of glory--gone. Washed away. Like a germ.

My kids, not knowing how *I* feel, are quite thrilled by this experiment. They've just proven that they can effectively wash their hands in five seconds. Or less.

I'm in shock. I take my little blacklight penlight and leave, all my hopes and dreams dashed. I'm not sharing this little goody now. Sadly, no one else notices. They don't even want to play with my new toy.

My blog is one year old today!

I wrote back then that I wasn't sure of the purpose of doing this, or what my ultimate goal was. I thought something would just happen.

It's been fun, and I'm grateful for the opportunity to have a place to post pictures and comment on the regular days of life. This is nicely convenient, since I'm not very good at keeping photo albums, and our pictures would otherwise disappear into the computer, rarely seen again.

While I don't know any more about the direction of my blog today than I did last October, I'm surprised that I've stayed committed to it for this long. I'm happy to continue blogging, and maybe we'll even reach two years!




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Tuesday, October 30, 2007

Tuesday

The kids continue to fly through their schoolwork. I've looked at their schedules over and over and can find nothing lacking; and I'm reluctant to pile on more work just because they are working efficiently . . . I need to continue to reassess, if for no other reason, to reassure myself that everything is going as it should. Additionally, I've always scheduled them for "free time" whenever possible. While it might sound silly to actually schedule it, it seems to work well when they know they have time dedicated to doing whatever they want (within reason, of course!).

We had another gorgeous day, and Trevor and I were able to get out for a walk.



Most of the leaves never seemed to have "changed"--just fallen down in the rain last week! I am grateful for the pine trees that will keep everything from being completely bare.



At the last minute in town yesterday, I remembered that we still hadn't bought PUMPKINS! And Lowe's even still had a good selection at a decent price! Trevor's been waiting for this all day; I think he started asking at 7:30 this morning. He drew several different faces on his pumpkin during the day with marker--it worked great, since it washed off easily.

But I think he really wanted to 1) give his pumpkin a lobotomy; and 2) have a good excuse to use a knife!



It was the first year that the kids didn't ask me for any help at all! I don't like this! I've been the chief pumpkin carver for 13 years, and I'm not ready to stop yet. (Maybe I need to buy my own pumpkin. Poor Mom!)



The end result. :)



BOO!

Monday, October 29, 2007

Weekly menu

Dinner:

quiche, spinach salad

french onion soup, bread, salad

???

chili dogs

husband delight

pizza

sloppy joes


Lunch (with or for):
smoothies
grilled PB&J

On the back burner:
grilled flank steak
fondue
Indian butter chicken
"seafood night" -- not sure what this is, but Robert promised Trevor
chicken souvlaki, coucous
shredded beef tacos
BLTs
manicotti

Sunday, October 28, 2007

Too many books?

Can one have "too many books"? It doesn't sound like a bad thing. In my world, it would be like having too much ice cream. Impossible.

I don't know that I have "too many books," but I'm trying to read too many at the same time. You can see my sidebar. I'm currently reading Parenting Is Heart Work, and Animal, Vegetable, Miracle. There are several others there waiting to be read. Hold on to Your Kids has been there since last November.

Not only am I having trouble keeping up, I'm two months behind. According to my Daily Bible, it's August 20.

And we usually have at least one read aloud going for school. Just to keep my life from being too boring, I'm taking on more there this week too. Our read aloud is Otto of the Silver Hand. I'm hoping Trevor does okay with it.

Holly's beginning the Beautiful Feet curriculum tomorrow, and we'll start The Story of Liberty. While she'll be doing some of her own reading, the curriculum encourages a parent to read out loud when possible.

And somewhere along the way, I got the brilliant idea to read a children's version of Moby Dick to Trevor. He's learning about whales in science, so it just fits well. (Nevermind that he's told me he's not really interested; I've never read Moby Dick, therefore, I think Trevor will find it very interesting.)

Once again I'm drowning in books. And I don't think there's such a thing as "too many" really, but I wish they came in Mint Chocolate Chip. Or Rocky Road.

Saturday, October 27, 2007

Saturday

Eek, no time to post! Here are some pictures of today. I can't believe we've had 6" of rain in the past three days, but it was bright, blue and 60s again today. I'm figuring it's a last hurrah for summer, and we bbqed burgers for dinner. :)






Friday, October 26, 2007

Wacky week at my house

After weeks of summer weather that I'd hoped would never end, it's rained. For three days. And we have five inches of rain and a brand new swimming hole in our back yard. Actually, the rain has been quite pleasant. The wind doesn't blow, and the temps have been in the high 50s. We've had our bedroom windows open the whole time and no need to run the heater.

* * *

I don't think either of the kids has ever gone to the street to get the newspaper--until now. They find it great fun for all three of us to pack under the umbrella. Of course, it's only fun if *I* come along. It passes for fun around here, lol.

* * *

We've also continued to do some school work on the front porch.


Notice my coat. Trevor's in shorts. It was a little too cool to comfortably do art, so Holly and I did that in the car at her request. That gives new meaning to the term "carschooling" when you do it in the driveway.

* * *

For the past ten years, regular white milk has not passed Holly's lips. She can manage chocolate milk, but that's about it. She discovered soy milk a few weeks ago and likes it. This might not seem wacky to anyone else, but I never would have guessed this in a million years. And with the price of milk right now, it's not a big leap to soy milk.

* * *

Trevor discovered that Transformers is on at 6 a.m. That's a little early for all of us. But for the past three days, he's set his alarm and woken up to watch. At Holly's request, he wakes her up too. He shines a flashlight in her eyes and finds it great fun. And Holly, who's never (ever, ever, ever) been one to get up early, gets up with him. This is the same girl who sets her alarm every morning for 7:15 and stumbles downstairs an hour later. I had (have) reservations about them doing this, but there are advantages. They go to sleep earlier at night. They've also been totally ready for school at 8:30, flying through their schoolwork. I can't complain.

* * *

Trevor. I've known this kid for nine years now. My sweet faced boy.


At least I try to remember him this way. He's enjoying driving me absolutely nuts with the most hideous faces.



This one looks like something out of a Mrs. Piggle Wiggle book.


That's his tongue over his upper lip.

* * *

The faces are so awful, but it's hard to not laugh sometimes. He continued at dinner, where his reading/viewing influences are showing up. And it's not pretty.

Trevor: (Burps at the table.)

Mom: (Turns expectantly.)

Trevor: "Better out than in, I always say!" (Thank you, Shrek.)

Mom: (Mouth dropping open.)

Trevor: "Must be a barge coming through!" (Thank you, Calvin & Hobbes.)

I laughed so hard that I almost cried. Then I threatened to send him to his room.

* * *

While Trevor's been busy showing off his marvelous memory, Holly's been training the cat. To fetch. Holly throws something for Pumpkin, and Pumpkin will chase after it, pick it up and return to Holly, waiting to go catch it again.

Good thing the cat now knows how to fetch, because our dog sure doesn't.

* * *

It's been an interesting week.

Wednesday, October 24, 2007

Tuesday, October 23, 2007

Tuesday

Trevor is currently learning about medieval monasteries. We've kept our history pretty low key this year, so I jumped at the chance to have a Monks Supper tonight. (Thanks to SOTW Activity Guide.)

Trevor helped a lot making the soup, and it was FUN! It made me realize, once again, that although I spend a lot of time with my kids in school, I need to be working more at fun time outside of school. We all would benefit from that, I'm sure.

We also had sliced cheese, sliced apples, beer (as in the diet, root kind), and bread and butter (although monks only had butter for special occasions). It was too bad that Robert and Holly didn't care for the soup--Trev and I both thought it was terrific, and we both had seconds. I could eat this often.

* * *

Lentil Soup

2 T. oil
2 c. green lentils
1 T. minced garlic
2 small onions, finely chopped
2 celery stalks, sliced
3 carrots, sliced
1 potato, cut into 1" cubes
8-10 c. water or chicken broth (I used about half and half)
2 bay leaves (remove before serving)
1 T. chopped parsley
1 t. thyme
1 t. oregano
1 t. salt
1/2 t. pepper

Heat a large Dutch oven over medium heat. Add oil; when hot, add garlic and onion. Cook, stirring occasionally, about 7 minutes until the onions are translucent. Add the remaining ingredients. Bring just to a boil, then reduce heat to low and cover. Cook two hours, stirring occasionally. Can blend/puree before serving, but I just mashed it up with a potato masher to keep some of the texture.


* * *


It had been warm and drizzly all day; I am loving this weather. It was a nice change from the sun, and since it was 70 degrees, we still sat on the front porch to do some school work. Robert and I spent too much time watching the awful pictures of the California fires. We have friends who evacuated late Sunday night.

Trevor's chess club met tonight, so we had a bit of a drive. I snapped this right by the church where chess club meets. I would love to spend a day or two just driving around and taking pictures.


Hmmm. Maybe three days.

Big Burritos

Emily asked that I post the burrito "recipe." There really isn't one; we recreate Qdoba's Vegetarian Burrito. We used to eat a lot of Chipotle and Qdoba. It didn't matter so much which one; my favorite really hinged on which had better customer service in the long run.

It will come as no surprise that we don't have one of these nearby. In fact, the nearest Qdoba and Chipotle both are in North Carolina. (Just shoot me now!)

* * *

Giant Burritos

Big white tortillas, heated briefly in microwave.

6 cups of hot white rice (about 2 c. dry), cooked with 1-2 T. lime juice, and 1/2 t. dried coriander or a few tablespoons of chopped fresh cilantro, or both.

One or two cans of black or pinto beans (your choice); drained well, and heated in microwave.

One package of shredded cheese.

Salsa(s) of your choice.

Sour cream.

Two or three avocados, mashed up with salt and pepper added.

* * * *

Set up ingredients, assembly line style. When everyone has added what they want, pretend to attempt to roll up the burrito. IF you really can roll it up, there's not enough stuff inside, so go back and add more. If you can't roll it up, you have enough filling and are ready to eat. Serve with a knife and fork.


*The difference is that Qdoba/Chipotle can roll up these burritos. However, I can't.

Monday, October 22, 2007

Weekly menu

Dinner:

giant burritos

Monks Supper (from SOTW, lol)
and dessert: Molasses Crinkle cookies from Strawberry Shortcake Murder

out to dinner

Emily's Tortilla Soup

galoush

cheeseburgers, cabbage ramen salad

smoked pork chops, mashed potatoes, corn

Lunch (with or for):
smoothies
grilled PB&J

On the back burner:
grilled flank steak
fondue
"seafood night" -- not sure what this is, but Robert promised Trevor
chili dogs
butter chicken

Sunday, October 21, 2007

Shrimp in Garlic Wine Sauce

This is a recipe that I've made for a long time. (Debbie in SJ: Do you remember giving me this recipe, and do you ever still make it?) I prefer it with rice; the rest of my family prefers pasta. That would be because Holly doesn't eat the shrimp part, so I serve it all separately, lol. Jean left a bag of frozen vegetables that steam right in the package; the peas with garlic and mushrooms were really good! I never would have bought them on my own, but I might now.


1 lb. raw large shrimp, peeled and deveined
2 T. flour
1/4 c. oil
1 garlic clove, minced
1 T. chopped shallots, or a second garlic clove, or a little minced onion
pinch of salt
2 T. lemon juice
1/4 c. dry white wine
2 T. butter

Sprinkle flour over shrimp and toss well. Heat 12" saute pan over medium heat; add oil. When hot, add shrimp in one layer. Brown lightly on one side, turn over and add garlic, shallots and salt. Brown on second side. Deglaze pan with lemon juice and wine. Reduce liquid, swirling pan to make sauce. Add butter, swirling to melt, and remove from heat. Serves 3.

Can serve over rice or pasta.

A catch up day

The church-search continues to be a bit overwhelming. We know where we'd like to go, but we don't want to be driving an hour to get there. Robert and I were both not feeling well last night, so it was an easy decision to stay home today. Again.

After being on the run for three days, it was great to have no plans. I didn't get dressed until well after lunch. (But at least I got dressed!)

I am SO not missing Colorado! Colorado = snow; freezing temps. Here = low 70s, low humidity, clear blue skies.

I spent an hour and a half talking to my dad and my sister on the phone. That kind of uninterrupted phone time is a luxury!

Robert set up the new bookshelf and I unpacked the rest of the book boxes. Yippee!!!! It's pretty . . . pretty ugly, but it's done, and I can find things. (If I only knew exactly what was there . . . )


Trevor and I walked down to the creek. He's having a harder time finding salamanders. I'm thinking they've buried themselves a little deeper as the weather's cooled. I'm beginning to have a better sense of direction and am not as worried that I'll get lost down there, never to find home again. :)

I made an old recipe for dinner that I'll post. Holly and I made cookie dough, the Molasses Crinkles from the first Hannah Swensen book. (Actually, I made the dough, and she pulled out her school notebooks, remembering work she'd done in 2nd and 3rd grade. It was so sweet!!!) We settled in to watch The Next Iron Chef.

You'd think I'd have had time to finish their school schedules, but that's the one thing I have to do before going to bed tonight.

Saturday, October 20, 2007

Chess for success!

Trevor competed in his first chess tournament today. We drove up to Roanoke. (Trevor made a face for his picture, so I'll use this one instead, haha.)



Seventeen kids competed in his age group (4th-5th graders). They played four games each, and Trevor earned two points (out of a possible four). He placed 11th and won a trophy! This was an excellent first showing!!!



It was a fun day, doing something totally different for us. We are very proud of him!

Friday, October 19, 2007

It's all about ME!

I desperately needed a haircut. I took a chance on a salon I found online and got my hair cut yesterday. I had to drive over the scary mountain. The trees are changing there, and it was beautiful! The hair place was totally awesome, and they did a great job on my hair. Huge relief for me, as it's one less thing I have to!

To celebrate, I ate half a giant box of Good n Plenty on the way home.

I already have three overdue library books. Oops! And the computer won't let me renew them if they are already overdue. I wonder how much they charge?

I'm reading Charlie and the Chocolate Factory to the kids. This is SUCH an awesome book! I'm even looking forward to watching the Gene Wilder movie version again when the book is done.

Robert set up the newest bookshelf downstairs, and I am almost done finally unpacking every book! Yippee!

Embarrassing thing #1: The night before we moved from Colorado Springs, friends invited us to dinner. I spilled something big time on my pants, and Christine lent me a pair of hers. They've been sitting in a mailing box here for over a month, and I still haven't sent them back.

Embarrassing thing #2: Holly's riding teacher was married in the beginning of September. I finally got her gift and card three weeks ago. It's still sitting here at my house. The longer it sits, the more embarrassed I am, but I still can't just write an extra note and put it in the mail. Besides, all I have is lined notebook paper.

I desperately need to get to the post office.

I went to a homeschool moms get together tonight. I. must. have. IRL adult female company! I made Ree's Cream Cheese Stuffed Jalapenos. I drove to the scary mountain but didn't have to go over it. It was still scary. It was drizzling and almost dark. I saw three different deer along the way (nervewracking!). And three cars total on the ten mile stretch of back road that I once (twice?) said I'll never drive again.

I enjoyed talking to the small group of moms, especially because most were following a classical curriculum for their kids (even if most of their kids are younger than mine).

The drive home wasn't too bad. At least the moon was out. (Dad, there are no streetlights for at least 12 miles west of me. And that IS the main road.) I saw two unrecognizable animals dash in front of my car, each different, both bigger than a squirrel and smaller than a raccoon. I saw four more deer out waaaay past their bedtime. I saw a total of three cars on the 12 miles home.

I ate most of the rest of the box of Good n Plenty.

I'm no longer dreading deer season quite as much.

Wednesday, October 17, 2007

Slowly falling

Suddenly I'm noticing a lot of leaves on the ground. Some of the trees have turned red, but most remain green. I'm sure they are still hopeful that it will continue to be warm, with lots of daylight.

I went for three walks today. The first was while the kids were still in bed. At 7:30 a.m., it was about 60 degrees. I could still see some of the morning haze.


It's getting too dark to walk after dinner, so Holly and I walked before.



Trevor thought it would be great fun to walk at almost dark. So we took a giant flashlight--and a cell phone, just in case. It wouldn't have done much good. We ran into Robert and Holly as we headed back towards home. The kids thought this night time walk was fun. I did not like it at all, I was too worried that a car would come along and not see us! Well, I have to worry about something, I guess. At least it wasn't cold outside, and the flashlight worked great!

Book Review - Parent Effectiveness Training by Dr. Thomas Gordon

What possesses me to continue reading parenting books? What magic advice do I hope to find?
Whatever it might be, it won't be found in this book. PET promises:
Using the timeless methods of PET will have immediate results . . . you'll find PET a compassionate, effective way to instill responsibility and create a nurturing environment in which your child will thrive.
Note: The author is a recipient of the 2000 Lifetime Achievement Award from the California State Psychological Association. He's a Nobel Peace Prize nominee.

What should have been my first clue that this book was not for me?????????

The book tells us that parents' attitudes and methods leave much to be desired. Parents fall into two categories: too strict, and too lenient. But wait! There's another option! Give up your power struggle. When you have a conflict with your child (whether they are 3 or 30), it can be resolved by allowing the child to brainstorm several solutions. From there, parent and child work out a solution acceptable to both. Parents are not to show a united front during problem solving. One parent typically doesn't agree anyway and both should enter into problem solving as "free agents."

Simplify the job of "training parents"! Everybody wins! Parents and children "possess equal or relatively equal power"! After all, you wouldn't treat your friends this way. And who wants their kids mad at them? Parents are strongly advised to not pressure "kids to live by certain rules," and parents must accept what they cannot change. Parents can prevent conflicts by "modifying themselves." Schools would do well to adopt this attitude too, as "students are blatantly denied civil rights" and "due process of law" in the classroom.

The author even claims that PET develops reasoning skills in children so superior that he "would not be surprised if future research determines that children in (these homes) develop mental capacities superior to children in (homes not using the method)."

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To be fair, the book had some good ideas on how to be a better listener, how to actively listen to what your kids are trying to tell you, and to not be defensive as a parent and how to respond in a way that is less likely to put children on the defensive. It teaches you how to easily recognize that some problems are owned by the children, and must be handled by the children. Some problems are owned by the parent, which require the parent to handle. Since reading the book last week, I have found both of these points to be helpful, and I've noticed my kids responding more positively too.

But overall, this was an awful premise, one more encouragement for parents to pass on their responsibility to someone else--in this case, their children. I am saddened to think of the kids who are raised in this way. It's a great book to solve conflicts for roommates--but that's not the relationship I want to have with my kids. And it shouldn't be the relationship they want to have with me either.